TherapurePremarital Counseling
Before the vows
A few months of honest conversation now can give you shared words for the harder moments later.
Who it is for
Couples getting ready to commit
You might be engaged, planning to move in, or simply serious about each other. Things may be going well. Premarital work is less about trouble and more about getting to know how the two of you operate under pressure.
How Naomi works
Curious, practical, a little playful
Naomi draws on Emotionally Focused Therapy to help you see the dance you do when stress shows up. She asks the questions couples tend to skip, and she keeps the tone light enough that it doesn't feel like an exam.
Expect some laughter, a few surprises about each other, and the occasional moment where one of you says, "I never knew that about you."
Naomi also pays attention to culture. If you grew up in different countries, languages, or family styles, she helps you put those differences on the table with curiosity instead of keeping score.
What we work on
Six conversations worth having
- 01
Conflict
What each of you does when you're upset, and what you need afterward.
- 02
Money
Saving, spending, debt, and the money stories you grew up with.
- 03
Family of origin
Holidays, in-laws, and the unspoken expectations from both sides.
- 04
Intimacy
How you each like to feel close, and how to ask for it.
- 05
Children
Whether, when, and how. And how each of you imagines parenting.
- 06
Roles at home
Who does what, and how you'll revisit it when life changes.
What can shift
A shared language you can reach for
Couples often leave with a clearer sense of each other's soft spots and a few phrases of their own for when things heat up. It won't prevent every hard day, and that isn't the aim. The aim is knowing how to find each other again.
What sessions look like
The couples format
Sixty minutes on secure video or in person in Manhattan Beach, usually weekly. Some couples come for a season before the wedding, while others continue into their first year of marriage.
Fees in brief
With Naomi
$200 individual, 45 min
$250 couples, 60 min
Associate clinicians
$150 individual, 45 min
$175 couples, 60 min
Questions
About premarital counseling
We aren't fighting. Is this still useful?
How many sessions do couples usually do?
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Give your future a head start.
Book a free consultation as a couple and see whether this kind of preparation feels right for you two.