Couples Therapy

When You Feel Like Roommates

You know who is picking up groceries and when the car needs service. You may know less about what your partner has been carrying lately. I work with couples who miss each other while sharing the same home.

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Two oak chairs beside linen curtains overlooking coastal grasses and distant water

At Home

A household that runs, a connection you miss

Some days you work well as a team. Calendars line up, bills get paid, and dinner happens. Yet when the evening quiets down, you settle into separate screens without knowing how to reach across.

There may not be one argument that explains the distance. You might feel lonely beside someone you love, or hesitate to mention it because you do not want your partner to hear that nothing they do counts.

Underneath

What silence can hold

Distance can develop around many things: exhaustion, disappointments left unspoken, or attempts to connect that did not go as hoped. I will ask about your experience rather than assume what the quiet means.

Sometimes a small invitation carries a large emotional risk. Asking to spend time together can also mean asking, “Do you still want me close?” If the answer feels uncertain, staying with logistics may seem easier. I am interested in the moments when you almost say something personal, then decide against it. We can examine the hesitation without demanding closeness.

Emotionally Focused Therapy

Exploring closeness through EFT

With Emotionally Focused Therapy, or EFT, I help couples pay attention to the feelings and attachment needs beneath everyday exchanges. We look at how you signal interest, protect against rejection, and respond to each other.

We might slow down a missed invitation or practice saying what you miss without turning it into an accusation. Reconnection is a possibility we can explore, not an outcome I can guarantee or a feeling you must perform. We can discuss what time together means to each of you.

In Session

You can start with what is absent

I offer 60 minute couples sessions in person in Manhattan Beach and through secure video for couples in California, Arizona, and Missouri. You can ask about meeting options before scheduling.

There does not have to be a crisis to talk about your relationship. We can begin with an ordinary evening, a conversation you avoid, or the uncertainty of not knowing what you want from each other now.

When to Reach Out

Make room for the question

A free consultation offers a chance to tell me what feels distant and ask about my approach. Neither of you needs to have a complete explanation before making contact.

Sessions are private pay, with superbills available. I ask for 48 hours’ notice for cancellations. We can address practical details while you consider whether this work is right for you.

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